So what do you do to make your man want you more?,this might have been the question ringing on your mind time and again,you even say;I have tried every thing,cooked good food,washed his clothes,made up for him his house,invited him over to family gathering,and I have tired everything you will think of,frustratingly you say.  And I very well understand your frustrations.so what can I do you say.I think what I am about to say might sound a bit obvious or too simple,but have you realized that it’s in most cases the simple things we ignore in life that make the difference?how does the simple thing work,because it’s the exact opposite of what most women think they should do! Ready?’The secret is to take care of YOU!yes yourself.” Now I know your saying,that is so simple,in fact I have been doing it all my life.But have you done it in such a way that,now that you have a partner it makes a difference?have you loved yourself to the extent that he admires and tells you how great,understanding,passionate and strong willed a woman you are?have you to the point that he feels he aught to love you even more than he ever did?now I hear someone saying how then?how can I?what can I do?good,that gives me the starting point.And here are a few tips to help you:
1. You must FILL your life with all the things that make YOU feel good, such as work you enjoy, activities which fulfill you.and these could range from  dance classes, writing,painting lessons, pottery,piano and music classes, to anything you fell turns you on like:a massage, manicure, expensive chocolate.

2. It’s one thing ;iking these things,but it’s completely another thing making them manifest in your outer life.what do I mean by this?I mean,let your hair be different,say you’ve had Bob for long,why not mohawk and in a different colour,you will get a surprise look on the face I tell you, go curly or straight,change change your  clothes, makeup,nailpolish, everything. Wear red on your lips and body – and just shake it all up so that YOU feel Diffeerent. Fresh. New.The purpose of all this is to make you go into zones you’ve never thought of going into. This way – when he shows up in a bigger way for you (and he will)- you’ll feel like an “unfamiliar woman” to him.  You can literally “start new” with him almost everytime.:-). Then…

3. As you go about your life being filled up, you must keep your heart open to him so he feels welcome to come to you. (It’s really important toremember – no matter how hard it is – that HE must come to YOU, not the other way around (and he will).   When he sees you having a wonderful, fulllife without him, he will become curious.  When your energy is no longer chasing him and pressuring him, he will finally be able to breathe. He will no longer feel smothered by all your attentions as the “good girlfriend”.He will have space to come to you, pursue you – just as it needs to be.This is his job as a man. It’s his job to call,make plans, let you know he’s interested, that he wants to be with you.  Your job as a woman is to receive HIS attentions – wholeheartedly, without reservations.You job is to keep your heart open, and receivehis love.  This is not such an easy thing for women -to be vulnerable and open. But it pays off bigtime.

And last…(women so often make this mistake…)……….

4. Remember this important key: A man is HAPPIEST when he’s actively making YOU happy. I don’t know if you ever stop to think how a man feels when he wants to really stop you from doing something because he is protecting you,and you react by shrugging him off,and then later you land in problems and he is the one to be there for you afterall.It really hurts him like that much when he can’t seem to be doing anything that makes you happy.the greatest thig that could happen to a man’s heart,is that he makes his girl happy,let him know you are happy for the;even very little things he does for you,let him nkow what it is that really makes you happy,and trust me,he will do anything within his power to make you happy.All he ever wants iy to see you happy.And with this,I hope you will pick a thing or two that could turn things around for you.

Till then,Mickoh here.

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